The teacher becomes the student

The teacher becomes the student

A sign of a good teacher is the one that is able to also be the student. Teachers learn in the moment from experiences with their students and other teachers. They also benefit from purposefully putting themselves in the role of student, as I did recently by attending the Doug Keller yoga therapy training. I have eagerly been anticipating this event for over a year, as I was unable to go last year. As a side note, he is a wonderful teacher if you ever have the chance to attend one of his trainings.

I arrived just in time for the training due to work and traffic. As a result, I got a spot in what I will refer to as the “black hole” of the room. I did not feel a sense of connection, and as we know from yoga, disconnect is the reason we develop an ego. My ego, which tends to show up as self depreciating, began to get loud. A common misconception is that ego is bragging and boastful, but that is only one side of the coin. Whether you are telling yourself you are better or worse, it's still all ego. My negative self talk ramped up and for awhile I bought into it. And then remembering came to me. I was not alone. I am perfectly imperfect. I am part of an incredible tradition that is still developing.

Once this awareness came I could see the factors that were contributing to my discomfort and rather than sit and suffer by myself, I reached out. By sharing my vulnerability and being received with empathy, my perspective changed. Does this mean that my ego was totally silent for the rest of the training? Not at all. But I could laugh at my thoughts, I could share them with others and best of all, I could remember the underlying connection and unity that ties us all together.

I learned a lot on about yoga therapeutics as well and am looking forward to sharing those next time we meet. In the meantime, check in with your sense of self and remember you are not alone. We have each other's back.

Shanti, Janice

The Life of a Householder

The Life of the Householder

With summer at its fullest, how is your garden growing? Thank you Angela for taking a personal experience and allowing your insights to guide us into our own deepening awareness. Angela’s thoughts lead perfectly into the focus of our next post.

Someone recently asked me to talk about the tenuous balance of being a serious yoga practitioner and a householder. On the one hand we talk about honoring the body, mind and soul by caring for it so we can remember our union, while the reality often is that we don’t have the time to do the sort of self care that helps us stay healthy and mindful. This is so true and it is sad to see people shame themselves or be shamed for getting sick because they “didn’t take care of themselves.” When a child (or another loved one) is sick, a partner is laid off requiring the other to work extra hours, or there are cut backs at work due to the economy and the job now has additional requirements, etc., there is a need to push through the situation and take care of the crisis.

What seems to have happened to many people, however, is that they end up staying in crisis mode. Following any push, there has to be a time for recovery. It may not be as much time as is “ideal” but it is essential to find time for that practice (perhaps a 20 minute nap or yoga nidra) that, to use Angela’s image, creates less space for the weeds to grow.
So yes, as householders, we will always be pushed, prodded and demanded to go outside of the “balanced” yogic lifestyle. Remember that imbalance is simply an opportunity to find a new balance that serves better in this moment, the only moment there is, the present.

How do you carve out that time for you? And can you treat that time with the same diligence and ferocity as you would a child under your care? You matter too.

Weeding AND Feeding

Spring was rough – I experienced both physical and emotional challenges. After several family crises in the same week I sought salve for my soul in my backyard garden. It needed tending and so did I. In a two day period that offered temperatures in the high 90s, I broke down hunks of donated hostas into 25 individual plants to create a border of green and white.

The physical labor was good for me as I sweated and shifted the earth into a new arrangement. My mind was busy with decisions about how to best to divide the hostas and where to place them, not worrying about loved ones far away. At one time the far end of the very shady yard had been cleared to expose a wide swath of rich black earth, but was never fully landscaped. Now muddy and overgrown, it offered little beauty, which describes pretty much how I felt. I was determined to plant a deep border of hostas on that end, and a single line of hostas along the north side of the yard to fill the space, create some order and offer beauty to the beholder.

On the second of those days of hot, hard earthwork, I heard myself thinking for the umpteenth time that if we plant more of what we want (like hostas), there will be less room for things we don’t want to grow (like weeds). And then I had the epiphany that this is true for humans, too. Planting for humans is doing our self-care practices, mantras, prayer, meditation, fun, work we love, spending time with friends, etc. The more life is filled with these things (the ones we want), the less room we leave for worrying, complaining, illness and unhappiness - the weeds of life.

What are you planting today? Tomorrow? And all the days after that?

We are ShivaShaktiSynthesis

Recently someone asked me how to describe her style of yoga. She said, … “People call themselves Iyengar, Kripalu, Anusara etc. What are we?” I replied, “We are ShivaShakti Synthesis.”  What a wonderful way to get a conversation going.  If someone asks about your style of yoga and you say “I was trained through ShivaShakti Synthesis,” they are sure to ask what that is.  This becomes your opening to say what ShivaShakti means to you. ShivaShakti is about finding your authentic voice.  Acknowledge your tradition and use your words to let the world know what your passion and offer is. What are your feelings about this? And how would you describe your offer?

Therapeutic Yoga, Yoga Therapy and ShivaShakti Synthesis

Therapeutic Yoga, Yoga Therapy and ShivaShakti Synthesis

We describe the level 1 program of ShivaShakti Synthesis as therapeutic yoga and the level 2 as yoga therapy.  But what does that really mean? I have not had an easy time in articulating it and I suspect I am not alone.  At the national level, a group of experienced folks have been meeting together for a few years trying to develop a working definition of yoga therapy.  Definitions have ranged from “all yoga is therapy” to the concept that yoga therapy is a new and western invention that has no basis in ancient texts. Which is true?

I don’t think it is accurate to say all yoga is therapy. Originally, yoga was the practice for the seeker on spiritual path, while ayurveda offered the path to health and wellness. Yet many of the practices in ayurveda have their basis in yoga.  The common root for yoga and ayurveda is samkhya philosophy, which to me says there is an ancient basis for yoga as therapy. This is why ShivaShakti Synthesis integrates the teachings of yoga and ayurveda.

I am working on writing up a section for the manual on our philosophy on therapeutic yoga and yoga therapy, so figured this was a perfect place to share some thoughts and get your feedback.

Here are my working definitions for ShivaShakti Synthesis:

Therapeutic yoga: Teaching a therapeutic style of yoga means that there is the ability to modify the practices, whether they are asana, pranayama, relaxation and imagery, yoga nidra and meditation to be accessible to any student.

Yoga therapy: Yoga therapy implies specifically addressing the areas of disconnect that separate someone from the truth and essence of their Being.

This is a teaser to get us started. What do you think?

Summer Solstice-Honoring the Light

Summer Solstice – Honoring the Light

As the summer solstice nears there seems to be subtle, but strong anticipation about this day. What is the solstice? The word consists of two roots, sol, which means sun, and stice, to stand still. Yet the solstice seems to be anything but that. It tells us that the earth is in its most extreme phase of its dance between light and dark, and from there it will begin to change toward the balance of the equinox.

  In the days of the sundial clock, the dials seemed not to move during the solstices. It was as if time stood still or was in stasis during the long period of sunlight of the summer solstice and the shortest period of the winter solstice. This may be why there are so many spiritual rituals and celebrations around these two times. It is said that the winter solstice rituals were developed because of the fear the sun would not return, and the hope that if enough light was created. In other words people were afraid that the darkness would become the stasis. Perhaps then celebrating summer is a hope that the fruits of summer and of light will stick around for a long time, that it will become the stasis.

  The summer solstice may be a temporary stasis, a gateway where we are invited to pause, stand still and receive the light before moving onto the next step, as there is always a next step. Stasis means a suspension of growth and therefore is only a temporary state. But it is good to periodically stop and take a break before going into the next growth spurt. Although we cannot make summer stay we can use this period to soak up the outer light to recharge our inner fire.

So what makes your light shine? What will you be doing on the solstice? I’ll be chanting the Gayatri Mantra and doing a few rounds of Surya Namaskar, then attempting to surrender to the stillness of the solstice and sit in the light. Feel free to join me. Our circle is always there. We can invoke it at anytime. 

Partner Yoga and the Dance of Interdependence

Partner Yoga and the Dance of Interdependence

When I was growing up, I received praise for being independent, which, I suspect, was true for many of you. Over time, I came to believe that independence was good and dependence, not so good.  Our culture tends to reward independence and harbor a negative attitude toward dependence, and for the longest time, I assumed these were the only two options. Then I got into a long-term relationship and discovered things weren’t quite so black and white.

Lo and behold, I discovered there was a third option – interdependence. My interest tweaked, I looked up the definition in the dictionary. Part of the definition of independence is quite appealing, to be free of. The other part, however, involves not having needs, which really hit me; who doesn’t have needs? Dependence means to depend upon while interdependence implies a reciprocal relationship where needs are allowed and mutually met. It seems pretty clear that while interdependence might be more challenging, it is the better course because it is the one that really can lead to a fulfilling life.

This interdependence is one of the reasons I love partner yoga. The dance of interdependence gets to play out there because in partner yoga, I am able to go deeper into a pose than I ever could have achieved on my own. However, it is not because someone else is doing it for me. Rather, it is because of the trust, connection and reciprocal relationship that I find within myself, my true strength, and just as amazing, the same thing happens for my partner.